To play, a child has the habit of diverting objects from their use: he plays with the wrapping of the gift, eats the pencils offered to him, climbs upside down on the toboggan … But what happens he in his head? Decryption.
My child rides on the toboggan upside down
As soon as you arrive at the park, your child goes to the toboggan and starts to climb … but upside down. Cries of other children who want to slip, protests. Unperturbed, your toddler continues climbing up the ramp.
– What’s going on in his head?
The steps are too high and the stairs are impressive. He prefers to try climbing from below! And it is not the explanations that will dissuade him: the sense of circulation, the fluidity, the “each his turn”, he understands nothing.
The slope seems much more attractive to him than the steps, a point that’s all! First, because from where he is, he can see where he wants to go – which is not the case when he is at the bottom of the stairs.
But also because, by the slope, the game starts immediately. If he drops a hand or a foot, he slips … but from when will he fall? “The adventure, the real one, is here. She asks for her motor skills, her desire to discover, her need to gain confidence in himself, her legs, feet, hands, muscles, arms, observes Laurence Rameau. For him, the most important thing is not to have arrived at the top, it is to try. ”
– How to best support your child?
Resist the urge to sit directly at the top of the slide. “It does not help him to feel confident,” says the nurse. Moreover, once he is installed on the curb, either he is panicked and simply refuses to go down, or he has the impression of having won a false victory since he has not arrived by himself. ”
Better to let your child climb the slope and encourage his efforts: “I think you climb higher and higher, it’s great. “Ensuring his safety and that of other children, of course!
Teach him to consider their presence: “Look, there is a little boy who wants to go down, free the slope so he can slip! It’s also a way of showing him that there is another way to play the toboggan.
He has fun with the packaging and abandons the gift
What happens in the mind of a child so that he enjoys diverting objects from their use? Laurence Rameau, pediatric nurse, trainer of early childhood professionals and author of Why babies play (Editions Philippe Duval), explains everything.
This toy, you chose it with care and love. Yes, but … as soon as your toddler has handled it for three minutes, he turns away from it to throw himself on the cardboard box and the piece of string hanging on it!
– What’s going on in his head?
In a few minutes, your child went around what the toy could bring him. Already, his desire turns to something else. And what are his eyes falling on? Paper, cardboard and string.
“These neutral objects are more exciting for him than the toy,” says nurse Laurence Rameau. He can exploit them physically, to do something unexpected. ”
The card then becomes a hat, a garage for cars, or a cabin for the teddy bear. The string turns into a snake that he drags to the ground, and he is delighted to see that she follows him like an obedient little dog!
It is also an opportunity for him to make essential experiences. “He’ll come in and out of the box, so learn the difference between inside and out,” says the specialist. Drag objects into it, its blanket for example. Does it disappear when it is in the box or does it continue to exist out of sight? To check it, he will get it back. Does it work every time? He begins again to make sure. Like a researcher, the young child multiplies the tests. He makes assumptions and validates them. ”
Unlike toys, whose use is pre-established, objects are also for the toddler the opportunity to exercise his imagination and invent scenarios. Put on the floor, the string becomes a path to follow. If he places his feet next to him, he falls into the sea. But cardboard is an island on which he can rest. Amazing!